Saturday, June 9, 2012

Homeschool Conventions, Vendor Halls, and Choosing Curriculum

A friend of mine asked about how we knew what to look at when we went into the Vendor Hall of the Homeschool Conventions we have attended the last few years.  After our conversation, I compiled a list of thoughts on the subject and sent her an email.  I decided that I would post the contents of that email here because I know of a few people who will be heading to the convention in our area next week.  I thought it might help someone else.  So, here are my thoughts on choosing curriculum and going to Vendor Halls.

Education Method:
One of the first things I have learned about choosing curriculum is to know what your preferred “education method(s)” are.  There are “Traditional,” “Charlotte Mason,” “Unit Studies,” etc. I don’t think I adhere to any one method, more a hybrid of a few. But if you have an idea of how you want to teach, it might help you when you visit the vendors.

Know Your Goal:
I remember at one convention, we did a seminar and the woman speaking had worked for “My Father’s World” as a representative for years. She said that people would ask her why they should buy that curriculum and she would ask them what their goals were. Most people did not know their goals, so she had a difficult time knowing whether the curriculum would work for them or not. When she went to conventions, she would go to the Vendor Hall with a written list of her goals and hand it to the representative and ask them if their curriculum could meet her goals. I have never gone that far, I don’t think we even have our goals written down.  However, when I thought about it, I realized that even in the first year we had some pretty strong feelings about what direction we needed to go in. 
Here are a few examples of some overall goals I had. My goals were for a history curriculum that would expose my kids to other cultures/world views from a Christian Perspective and have a lot of Historical fiction included so that History would be more than just dates and memorization. My goals for a math curriculum were that it would engage them visually and have a cyclical review of concepts learned. My overall goal? I want my kids to love learning…that is the most important thing to me. If I can see that a curriculum is going to motivate them because it makes learning more engaging, I will choose that. As I looked at curriculum with these goals in mind, I also started to be a little more specific. I realized that Little Man would not do well with Horizons Math, it had way too much repetition for someone who HATES to sit still. I realized that some curriculum had a Christian perspective, but it seemed to shy away from some of the difficult subjects. (We have books that show some nudity in illustrations of tribes from early history.  I know some users of Sonlight are offended by that. But I don’t have a problem with my kids seeing how people really lived. It gives me an opportunity to point out the differences in the definition of the word “modesty” in different cultures.  Some things that are acceptable to us are considered unacceptable to other cultures, too.)
Learning Styles will probably figure in the equation, as well.  If you get a chance to look at the book “The Way They Learn” by Cynthia Tobias, I strongly recommend it. The book covers Learning Styles and was very helpful in realizing how MY learning style can affect how I teach.  While I had thought about the need to know how to present information the way they would receive it best, I didn’t think about how my learning style affects how I teach.  I am actually going to read it again this summer as a review of the learning styles in our family and how I can best help my kids to succeed. 
There is also an article on “Lesson Plans” on the Early Years section of The Homeschool Legal Defense Association (HSLDA) website that I think could be helpful in thinking through your goals.  It also may be helpful in planning how you are going to use your curriculum in your weekly plan.
 
The Vendor Hall:
Even for my first year, I had researched all the curriculum I was thinking of using before I left home. Then, I had already narrowed it down and only needed to look at a few things when I went. I really think that the online research I did first really prepared me. The Vendor hall was not really intimidating because I had an idea of what was out there already, and I could tell quickly whether something was going to work or not. Having an idea of my goals also helped me to pass up curriculum that may have been great, but did not fit in with what we wanted to accomplish for the year.  God was making it really clear to me what was going to work way before we stepped in the building. The act of walking around and seeing things in person was more a confirmation that the curriculum I was leaning toward was really the right choice. When we chose the math this year, it was a little different. I had looked at Teaching Textbooks and Math-U-See, and I knew about Switched on Schoolhouse. After talking to a friend who homeschools, I thought for sure I was going to go with Math-U-See – Ryan and I had even talked about it the first time we saw it at a convention. When we got there and looked through the three options, though, both of us were in agreement pretty quickly that Teaching Textbooks was a better fit. In both cases, though, we were relaxed about it and came home to think before we bought.  HSLDA has a page specifically on how to prepare for a Homeschool Convention that might be helpful.  A blogger I read, Amy at Raising Arrows, has a blog post on “Surviving…the Vendor Hall” that may be helpful, too.  While I found this blog post helpful, one thing we have never done is buy curriculum at the Convention.  We always get catalogs and come home and take a breather first.  We sometimes buy things we see that we think might be helpful (like a clock face with moving arms I got a few years ago), but I think it is worth waiting until I get home and decide what we want and can afford for curriculum that year.
 
Online Research - Some Curriculum Options:
If you want to get an idea of some of the tables you will see at the Convention, here are some examples of the tables we have seen the last few years:
Some of the curriculum companies that offer full packages that I am aware of are: My Father’s World, A beka, Sonlight, Rod and Staff, and Alpha Omega.
The Math curriculum we are using next year is called “Teaching Textbooks.”  The other two we looked at were Math-U-See and Switched On Schoolhouse (by Alpha Omega).  We have also used Horizons and Singapore Math.  We have never used Saxon Math, but I know some people like it.  For any of these curriculum, it is a good idea to take the placement tests.  We bought Singapore math for Princess her second year, but after looking at it we knew it would be too easy for her.  We knew it would be good for Little Man, so we kept it for his K year.  This year, both children will be in Math curriculum that is one year ahead of their grade level.  For math, I think it is a good idea to be sure that the level you buy really fits.  You don’t want a frustrated or bored student.  :)
Some of the Handwriting curriculum we compared were: Handwriting without Tears, A Reason for Handwriting (we went with this one), and A beka (they believe in teaching cursive from the very beginning, so even the K curriculum is “recommended” in cursive. They do offer K in Printing, though).
I would look at the sites first to make sure that you are even interested, you might be able to rule something out just by seeing the website.  Then, if you still want to look closer you can visit the tables at the convention.  If you go to Sonlight’s website, they use a variety of curriculum options for subjects like Math, Handwriting, Spelling, Grammar, etc.  It is a good place to compare some of the different curricula from one site.
 
Online Homeschool Convention:
I read on a blog called “Meet Penny” about an online “Homeschool Convention” where there is a virtual vendor hall that you can visit to check out curriculum.  I haven’t visited it myself, yet.  But it may be helpful in getting an idea of what the Vendor Hall will be like in person. 
I hope these links help.  If you pray about it and let God lead you, He will give you peace about the right curriculum for you.  I loved this quote from the HSLDA article on Lesson Plans I linked to above,
“Your curriculum is a tool, not a master.” 
It is really helpful for me to remember that.  NO curriculum is going to be perfect.  You are going to have to adjust it to fit your family.  So, don’t feel pressured about making your family fit the curriculum.  Keep what works, and throw out what doesn’t.  You will find a groove that works for you.

Saturday, March 31, 2012

The heart that has truly loved...

In our first year of marriage, I memorized and recited this poem as a gift for Ryan and framed a copy for him to keep:

Believe me if all those
Endearing young charms
Which I gaze on so fondly today
Were to change by tomorrow
And fleet in my arms,
Like fairy gifts fading away
Thou would'st still be adored
As this moment thou art
Let thy loveliness fade as it will
And around the dear ruin
Each wish of my heart
Would entwine itself
Verdantly still.

It is not while beauty
And youth are thine own
And thy cheeks
Unprofaned by a tear
That the ferver and faith
Of a soul can be known
To which time will but
Make thee more dear
No the heart that has truly loved
Never forgets
But as truly loves
On to the close
As the sunflower turns
To her god when he sets
The same look which
She'd turned when he rose.

Thomas Moore

Today marks our 11th anniversary, and it has been more wonderful than I could ever have hoped.  God definitely knew what He was doing when He set us up!  Someday, I will have to write about that, but for today, I am just reveling in the fact that God gave me a man who truly does love me more today than the day we were married.  We had the verse reference Mark 10:9 inscribed on our rings, "Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate."  I believe that it is because we knew this was God's direction for us that we have never wavered in our commitment to each other.  I pray it is always so.


Thanks for marrying me, Ryan.  May we each have a "heart that truly loves."  You are truly more dear to me than ever.  I love you.

Friday, March 23, 2012

Hello Mornings - Messy Middle

I think I have referred to the "Messy Middle" before.  It is a term I first heard from Donna Otto at Homemaker's By Choice.  She described how she likes to start something new - it is fun and you are full of anticipation.  She also likes to finish something - it brings the sense of accomplishment that you have achieved something.  But, the phase of hard work in between the starting and the finishing is the "messy middle."  It is that place where things are not so fun or exciting, that place of monotony and challenge that you have to work through if you are to reach that place of finishing strong.

This is exactly where I have found myself in the Hello Mornings challenge.  I tend to be an all or nothing kind of person.  So when I jumped into this challenge, I did so with complete abandon.  I was surprised how good it felt to be getting up in the morning, reading my Bible and exercising. When I faced the kids in the morning, it was with a cheerful attitude - even if they interrupted me or were misbehaving.  The afternoons were not so pretty, as I was exhausted from poor discipline in the evenings.  I was still staying up way too late.  Still, I felt I was succeeding. 

Then, my knees started hurting from the morning exercise...

Then, I gave myself the weekend to recover from my late nights and lack of discipline... 

Then, I got sick...

The days I made myself push through and get up, I ended up feeling ill the whole day - dizziness, headaches, nausea.  So, I let myself have a break; but I felt like a failure.  I did not give up on the idea, and still have not.  But my momentum is gone.  I am starting over.  Only this time, I am missing that sense of starting something new, and instead have the discouragement from my failure to perform.  This has been really difficult for me, and yet I am so thankful I "failed." 

Why?  Well, if this is going to be a long term change, I will fail.  I will have times when I cannot find the strength to do what I know I want to do.  And during these last few weeks, I have received so many encouragements from unrelated sources that show me that I can survive the low periods and NOT GIVE UP.  That is the only thing that can  stop this positive change God wants to perform in my life - if I give in to the voice of the accuser (did you know that is what Satan means?) telling me, "You failed.  It is over."

Here's the thing.  God hasn't given up cheering for me from the sidelines.  He is still there supporting me.  And He doesn't care if I win or lose this "game".  If I "fail" at this Hello Mornings Challenge, He still wants me to try.  What he cares about is how I play.  If it were just my efforts that mattered I may win the game, I may lose it, but the Hello Mornings Challenge is not what matters.  The character that God wants to work in my life is what matters.  Jesus paid the price for my life.  I will NEVER perform well enough or consistently enough to win every challenge.  I will NEVER be righteous enough to make it into heaven on my own merit.  I need Jesus to play the game for me.  That doesn't mean that I just don't try anymore - it means that I try my best and allow Him to pick me up when I fall.  That is hard for me.  I want to do it on my own.  I want to perfect my game and succeed on my own terms.  If I could do that, though, I would not need Him. I don't ever want to get to the place where I believe that I don't need Him.  I want to get to the place where I am absolutely dependent on Him.  For that reason, I am so glad I failed.  So glad that He has continued to encourage me when He knows I would rather quit and accept defeat.

There are also reasons that I hate that I failed, so I will talk about those next time.  But I will leave this time with one of the encouraging words I read that came from a discussion about budgeting, of all things. 

"Victory Over the Lack of Discipline

  Discipline and self-control must be applied one day at a time.  If you can establish one daily discipline and stick with it for three weeks, you will form a new habit that will lead to the ability to become more disciplined in every area of your life.
  A spiritual battle will be waged to keep you from believing that you can be disciplined.  The Enemy wants to rob you of the fruit of the Holy Spirit and cause you to constantly feel defeated when it comes to areas of weakness.  Make this a matter of daily prayer, asking God to help you live one day at a time, to give you self-control and perseverance.
  Like any endeavor, you may experience discouraging setbacks, frustrations or obstacles.  That is when you must not give in to the temptation to quit.  It will be far more encouraging at the end of the year if it simply takes you longer or a few more attempts to achieve your goals than if you had quit early on."

Chuck Bentley, Crown Do Well Magazine, Volume 2, Issue 1, article Stay the Course, italics added.